Raghumani Singh
Fortunate is the man whose wife understands the true relationship between the emotions of love, sex and romance. When motivated by this holy triumvirate, no form of labour is burdensome, because, even the most lowly form of effort takes on the nature of a labour of love.
It is a very old saying that “a man’s wife may either make him or break him,’’ but, the reason is not always understood. The “making” and “breaking’’ is the result of the wife’s understanding of the emotions of love, sex and romance.
Despite the fact that men are polygamous by the very nature of their biological inheritance, it is true that no woman has as great an influence on a man as his wife, unless he is married to a woman totally unsuited to his nature. If a woman permits her husband to lose interest in her, and become more interested in other woman, it is usually because of her ignorance, or indifference towards the subject of sex, love and romance. This statement presupposes, of course, that genuine love once existed between a man and his wife. The facts are equally applicable to a man who permits his wife’s interest in him to die.
Married people often bicker over a multitude of trivialities. If these are analysed accurately, the real cause of the trouble will often be found to be indifference or ignorance on these subjects.
Man’s greatest motivating force is his desire to please woman! The hunter who excelled during prehistoric days, before the dawn of civilisation, did so, because of his desire to appear great in the eyes of woman. Man’s nature has not changed in this respect. The “hunter’’ of today brings home no skins of wild animals, he indicates his desire for her favour by supplying fine clothes, motor cars and jewelleries. Man has the same desire to please woman that he had before the dawn of civilisation. The only thing that has changed is his method of pleasing. Men who accumulate large fortunes, and attain to great height of power and fame, do so, mainly, to satisfy their desire to please women. Take women out of their lives and the great wealth will be useless to most men. It is this inherent desire of man to please woman which gives women the power to make or break a man.
The woman who understands man’s nature nd tact- fully caters to it, need not have any fear of competition from other women. Men may be “giants’’ with indomitable will power when dealing with other men, but they are easily managed by the woman of their choice.
Most men will not admit that they are easily influenced by the women they prefer, because, it is in the nature of the male to want to be recognised as the stranger of the species. Moreover, the intelligent woman recognises the “manly trait’’ and very wisely makes no issue of it.
Some men know that they are being influenced by the woman of their choice- their wives or sweet hearts– but they tactfully refrain from rebelling against the influence, because they are intelligent enough to know that “no man is happy or complete without the modifying influence of the right woman.’’ The man who does not recognise this important truth deprives himself of the power which has done more to help men achieve success than all the forces combined.
Go back into your yesterdays, at times, and bathe your mind in the sweet memories of past love. It will soften the influence of the present worries and annoyances. It will give you a source of escape from the impleasant realities of life and may be…. who knows ?….your mind will yield to you, during this temporary– retreat into the world of fantasy, ideas or plans which may change the entire spiritual or financial status of your life.
If you believe yourself unfortunate, because you have “loved and lost’’, perish the thought. One who has loved truly, can never lose entirely, love is whimsical and temperamental. Its nature is ephemeral and transitory. It comes when it pleases and goes away without warning. Accept and enjoy it as long as it remains, but spend no time worrying about its departure. Worry will never bring it back.
Dismiss also the thought that love never comes but once. Love may come and go, times without number, but mind that there are no two love experiences which affect one in just the same way. There may be and there actually is, one love experience which leaves a deeper imprint on the heart than all the others, but all love experiences are beneficial, except to the person who become resentful and cynical when love makes its departure.
There should be no disappointment over love and there would be none if people understood the difference between the emotion of love and sex. The major difference is that Love is spiritual and Sex is biological. No experience, which touches the heart with a spiritual force, can possibly be harmful, except through ignorance or jealousy.
Love is an emotion with many sides, shades and colours. The love which one feels for parents or children is quite different from that which one feels for one’s sweet heart. The one is mixed with the emotion of sex while the other is not.
The love which one feels in true friendship is not the same as that felt for one’s sweetheart, parents or children, but, it, too, is a form of Love.
Then, there is another emotion of Love for things inanimate, such as the love for Nature’s handiworks and Music etc. But, the most intense and burning of all these various kinds of Love, is that experienced in the blending of the emotions of Love and Sex. That is why, marriages, not blessed with the eternal affinity of Love, properly balanced and proportional with Sex cannot be happy ones– and seldom endure.
Love alone will not bring happiness in marriage, nor will Sex alone. When these two beautiful emotions are blended, marriage may bring about a state of mind, closest to the spiritual that one may ever know on this earthly plane.
When the emotion of Romance is added to those of Love and Sex, the obstructions between the finite mind and infinite intelligence are removed and then a genius is born.
What a different story is this from those usually associated with the emotion of sex. Here is an interpretation of the emotion which lifts it out of the common place, and makes of it potters’ clay in the hands of God, from which He fashions all that is beautiful and inspiring. It is an interpretation which would, when properly understood, bring harmony out of the chaos which exists in too many marriages.
The diharmonies often expressed in the form of nagging, may usually be traced to lack of knowledge on the subject of Sex. Where, love, romance and proper understanding of the emotion and function of Sex abide, there no disharmony between married people.
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