Discover yourself to desire big

Choudhary Batool Fatima
I think, a lot of people live their lives having no clue what they want. They usually follow the American Dream without a second thought, just because that’s what’s expected of them.
That’s a pretty lousy way to live your life. At the risk of sounding cheesy, I’d like to point out that you have only one life; make the most out of it and do things that make you happy. And you should start right now.If you don’t know what you really want in life, you’re not alone. Thousands, if not millions, of people wander the earth every day without a quest. If you don’t want to spend your life wandering aimlessly. You have to know yourself firstly who you really are:
Aristotle said:
“Knowing yourself is the beginning of all wisdom.”
And i think, To truly know yourself is the most important skill you can ever possess. When you know who you are, you know what you need to do, instead of looking for permission from others to do what you already know you ought to do. It allows you to bypass tons of frustration caused by putting time into the wrong things. Yes, life is supposed to be full of trial and error, but this lets you find the best areas for you to experiment with in the first place. Once you know yourself, you will become more confident, you will understand your purpose, and you will begin making a bigger impact on the world.
~Be quiet.
You cannot and will not be able to know yourself until you take the time to be still. Many people don’t know themselves because any sort of silence scares them; it’s too uncomfortable to be alone with every flaw staring back at them. But it isn’t until you get alone, evaluate yourself and are completely truthful with yourself that you will actually be able to see every facet of your life the good and the bad. Be quiet and discover your true self. That’s why I love to be alone not all the time but sometimes.
~Find what you are passionate about.
Following passion of any kind is a good thing, and you need to pay attention when it comes because it indicates an area of life that you need to pay more attention to. If we’re talking about following your passion in work, it’s a good thing. And if we’re talking about having more passion for life, it’s a good thing. Focus more on passion; understand yourself in better ways, and you’ll make a bigger impact. Passion produces effort and continuous effort produces results.
~Realize who you truly are, not who you want to be.
I know you already have a set idea of who you desperately want to be, but it might not be who you were designed to be; this is why knowing who you really are is so important. When you know who you are, you will finally see where you and your specific gifts fit into the bigger picture.
Use your reflections to fight your biggest fears, because when you understand who you are meant to be, your purpose will finally become bigger than your fears. When you realize who you are, you will spend less time spinning your wheels. Focusing on your strengths gives you the needed traction to begin making a bigger and better difference in the world. When you know yourself, you will find more peace, and you will find success quicker than ever before.Now go take action and find your true self, starting today.
Take Risks.
~Figure out what you need.
Sometimes it’s hard to figure out what you need. Sit down and think about what you need the most. Is it your family? The freedom to express yourself? Love? Financial security? Something else? If it helps, you can make a list of priorities. Also think about the kind of legacy you want to leave behind.
~Determine what really bothers you.You can soar only by pushing back against something you don’t want. Figure out what upsets you, and be specific about it. Don’t just say that you hate studies, you hate plannings, you hate your job, you hate your life etc. Pinpoint exactly why you hate it. What bothers you, and how can you fix it? How much do you want to fix it?
~Determine what makes you truly happy
There’s no waste to life if you’re happy living it. Your happiness is the root of your desires. So take a few moments and really think about what makes you happy. Is it traveling? Being around children? Owning a successful business? Your significant other? Financial freedom? Job? Marriage? Anything else? For me it’s adventures, crafting, discussions, reading, cooking travelling etc. You figure out yours. Once you pinpoint the one thing that makes you happy the most, you’ll have a pretty clear idea of what you should strive for in your life.
~And Let people around you know what you’re trying to achieve
Don’t keep your goals and desires to yourself. Voice it all out! If you tell people what you’re trying to accomplish, they will most likely support you and give you new ideas. Sometimes mother does know best. Remember People are also demotivate you. So it’s depend on you How you take their motivation.
~Find Peace
Lack of clarity about who I am and my purpose.We long for peace, desperately. Peace from noise, chatter, pressure, responsibilities. We also want peace from the painful thumping inside our own head the conflicts and strain we inflict on ourselves every minute to be better, stronger, smarter, prettier, thinner, better parents, money, family background, status, etc.
Peace, I’ve found, doesn’t come from being better at anything, or even figuring anything out. Attaining peace is a practice that we need to cultivate and commit to, regardless of what’s going on around you. Peace in today’s times will never just fall in our laps. it’s too chaotic a world. We have to carve out space within ourselves and in our lives to bring forward the experience of peace, then do the work to expand peace as a feeling and experience that we’ll commit to daily, regardless of what’s around us. You don’t have to know your purpose to be at peace. you just have to commit to being at peace, and building daily practices that will support you in that commitment.
~Stay positive.
Life doesn’t always go how you want it. Don’t feel dismay as your plans stray. Take control. Instead of freaking out, try your best to roll with the changes. Accept it He (Allah) is the best of the planners. You will get there someday. You’re just taking a little detour. Sometimes a positive attitude is all you need to keep going.
Only you can determine your own true values in life. You can’t let anyone else determine your true desires or values in life.
Accept yourself as you are,
Be the hero of your story (Life) ,
Be awesome,
Be true with yourself.
Love yourself unconditionally.
“Tumhen khabr takk nahin ke tum kitne anmol hoo.
Tum youn he khud ko nakamma samjh baithe ho.
Batool tum he inhe batla doh zara
Ke Rab ki kainaat mein aik zarrra bhi bekar ka nahin
Tum to MashAllah se aik insan hoooo. ~bãtool