Manners Make a Man

Arjun Singh Rathore
The Manners make us man that’s why it is rightly said “Behave like a man”. Man, the most intelligent creation of God on the earth with the capacity to think, talk and act accordingly while living in society, is born with a natural ability to behave well and perform good manners. Parents right from the birth teach their kids about their behaviour with family members, neighbours, friends, teachers, etc. Good manners are very essential in life as they help us to behave well in society. Good manners help us to win the heart of people in the public place. Therefore, one can create a unique personality due to good manners.
Good manners mean good behaviour. It should be inculcated in children right from their childhood. We must follow all the good manners whether we are at home, office, school, college, tourist places or with friends. Good manners help a person to show the good character. Once good manners are learnt they become a part of man’s nature. Good company also teaches good manners.
Having good manners in life matters a lot for living a social life. Good manners help us in getting respect and dignity in the society whereas bad manners defame us. Importance of good manners is known by all. Possessing good manners helps in creating a good and lasting impression. Behaving nicely with others does not only make a good impression on them but also makes us feel content.
What is it that momentarily comes to our mind if we consider an image of an ideal person in our life? It would with no doubts be some well-mannered person with splendid personality, who is intelligent and has good sense of humour.
In this case one can compromise on sense of humour and even a bit of on intelligence and personality, but not on manners. Manners and etiquettes hold a staunch ground here. What is the point of person being smart and intelligent if he or she cannot treat the ones they interact with rightly and spoil the mood of everyone around? Yes, that is the importance of good manners and etiquettes in one’s life. It is a code of behavioural conduct that is polite and socially acceptable and liked by all.
Having good manners is considered a virtue. It is very important to have good manners. A person’s manners describe his character. In each and every phase of life a person is going to be judged on the basis of his first impression, and it is what lasts forever in a person’s mind. Our manners introduce us to others before we speak.
Thus, it becomes very important for a person to create a right first impression. Good manners are one of the traits that count the most. A good conduct towards a person makes him feel respected and he or she instantly starts getting a good vibe for that person. Friendships are initiated and relationships are strengthened on the basis of good manners.
It is very important to understand the importance of the magical words such as Thank You, Sorry, Please, Excuse Me and gestures such as holding the door for others, not using phone while we are with someone, listening, offering your seat to someone in need, smiling at strangers while having an eye contact and many such small actions which can make someone feel a bit more happy and comfortable with you. These actions and words will also induce positivity in our mind and soul.
The way one behaves in public sets a standard for other people also to behave with him accordingly. The need of adopting good manners in public is not only to gain respect, but also to show people that you are considerate about their feelings and their dignity. Moreover, good manners lead to good habits and good habits eventually lead to individual growth as well as overall development of a country.
Though traits within good manners are uncountable, some traits are a must to be taught to children from a very early age. These good manners are necessary for all throughout their life. Some of such good manners become a part of practice in our daily life are like:
* We must learn the habit of sharing things to others;
* We should be helpful, polite and humble to others in every possible way;
* We must use the magical words sorry, please, thank you, excuse me and time wish as and when required;
* We must respect the other’s property and always take permission before using;
* We must be responsible as well as self-dependent for everything at every place;
* We must behave in a good way with humble respect to our teachers, parents, other elders and senior citizens;
* We should always maintain cleanliness at home, school, and all other public places;
* We should not use any offensive or abusive language to others at home or any other place;
* We must give the seat for senior citizens while using public transport.
Keeping in mind the importance and benefits of good manners, we should always try to inculcate these in our day to day life. By way of this, we would not only benefit ourselves but will also contribute towards a more balanced and sophisticated society. Above everything it is our moral duty to treat everyone right.
Good Manners are always kind of way to interact with people. It is more of an art, the better we become, we get to discover more and more perks of learning it. Some common and known advantages of good manners are a person with good manners is loved by all, he or she becomes more desirable, as we have treated everyone with respect we also easily get favors from everyone in the hour of need and even if we are in a situation wherein we have to interact with new people, it won’t be a difficult task for us. A person with good manners can easily draw everyone’s attention.
Nowadays, being mannered in professional life is of prime importance. Even though people are aware how important it is to behave properly, they fail at times, may be because their brain is not habitual of keeping their behaviour in tact due to nervousness. One of the reasons for this is that we don’t practice being mannered in our day to day lives. Thus, it is very important for one to inculcate these things as soon as possible.
It is said that “A man’s manners are a mirror in which he shows his portrait”. Hence, it is necessary to have good manners to be respectful in public. Usually we think that intelligence and money are the only ways to gain respect among people and in society, but this is a very wrong notion. Even if one is intelligent or rich or both at the same time he won’t be treated with respect if he lacks good manners and treats others well.