After Engagement…….

Rajeshwar Singh Raju
“After engagement, a very special feel comes into mind which cannot be described in words. It can be felt only.” Somewhat similar feelings are shared by all those would be couples who may have got engaged recently.
A strange change in behavior is noticed not only in case of males but females also. Everyone is extrovert initially but from the day one gets engaged, a drastic change is witnessed and one becomes more and more introvert. The different social sites and Whatsapp revolution has added more to this isolation from rest of world. The engaged couples are always found moving their fingers on their mobiles thus exchanging every minute they are living and share such experiences, incidents, sequences and situations that have no value for others but are very important for both of them.
Privacy is the perfect word that can be used in case of engaged couples, who are yet to get married. One does not want to share this feel to anyone except with his/her fiancée. It results in isolating the engaged couples from rest of world. Actually, it is witnessed that all lovers have the same symptoms but since I have been talking in Indian context, then we presume that this close association between a male and female happens only after their marriage is finalized and they are said to have been engaged with each other officially with the consent of their families.
In this era of live-in-relationship, this age old tradition of engagement and then marriage offers all those moments to individuals that mark an everlasting impression for rest of life. A happy time period that no one wants to forget. Rather families are seen watching photos and videos of such a Golden era of life for the rest of life, just to amuse them and recall sparkling past.
If I cast a look at my past, then undoubtedly I will admit that the time span spent between engagement and marriage is the best time ever happening in the life of individuals that gives a chance to feel ecstasy for new developing relation. This particular relation has to emerge as the closest one and be accountable for coming generations. It’s a pious relation as it’s about commitment that male and female make to remain loyal to each other for ever, make a happy family and fulfill the moral obligations for being born as human beings. Although Sex has been a part and parcel of life but this bond is even beyond that physical joyfulness and is more of spiritual nature rather than physical.
I will like to take reference from a Hindi feature film _ VIVAH to elaborate more about strange feelings experienced by young couples after being engaged. It’s an imaginary world that every one wishes to visit to. It’s like an everlasting experience that no one wants to miss.
Although so many movies have been made on this concept, but the way treatment has been given to characters as well as minutest of expressions being captured in said movie, it makes it a treat to watch and moreover experience and recall joyful journey from engagement to marriage. The skillful and artistic use of situations and sequences have made it a captivating presentation, it’s beautiful and inspiring as well.
Honestly speaking, I become emotional every time I watch this movie. It’s like an experience of every young couple. Rajshri Productions is a well known banner for family movies that speak of emotions and have quite a good number of super hit movies like
Nadiya Ke Paar, Maine Payaar Kyun Kiya, Hum Aapke Hain Koun, Hum Saath Saath Hai etc. Under the direction of Suraj Bhadjatya, this banner has provided enchanting experiences to film goers and VIVAAH has been a mile stone, a classical one in Hindi Cinema. Every single frame has unique feel and tells a lot about the pious relation called VIVAAH. In fact this particular movie is the story of every couple’s life and one enjoys while going through similar experiences of the past.
After watching expressions creeping on the face of one of my colleague who was recently engaged, I realized that such an expression is trademark of all those youths who have been engaged to get marry in near future. But, will this expression carry on even after marriage is a point of concern.
On a lighter note, it may be said that married couples have other opinions. Blame game on each other for ignoring or lack of quality time to be spent together has been problem with almost all couples. But I think that there are so many factors responsible for the behavioral change experienced by the married couples.
“Before marriage you ‘WERE’ so nice and after marriage you have become so ‘BORE’.” This has been a common complaint of married ladies to their husbands. But this particular word_ ‘WERE ‘cannot remain__ ‘ARE’ forever for so many reasons.
However whatever we may elaborate but the time spent between engagement and marriage is the golden time that remains in the memory of couples forever. After marriage certain obligations and responsibilities create all sorts of hurdles to disturb the pious relation between husband and wife, but still the life goes on despite certain ups and downs that are synonym to married life in each corner of the world.
I will like to add here that one should always enjoy any moment in life as it is really very tough to extract moments of joy from otherwise stress and strain loaded life. If an opportunity comes in your life after engagement then go on enjoying every minute of it. Golden Days are numbered and for a common man these days are restricted to certain period only. The time span between engagement and marriage is such an occasion when emotions are at its peak and feelings are shared in real terms. Then go and entertain yourself and feel ecstasy, a real happiness.

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