Dr Ritika Sambyal
“A real friend is one who walks in when the rest of the world walks out.” – Walter Winchell
Have you ever felt the profound need for a friend in a difficult moment? We often count our connections in the digital realm, boasting hundreds, even thousands, of “friends” across social media platforms. Yet, in this hyper-connected world, how often do we truly get to meet or spend meaningful time with them? We are undoubtedly connected online, but paradoxically under-connected in the physical world.
Instead of countless virtual acquaintances, even one true friend is a blessing-someone with whom we can genuinely share our feelings, our ups and downs, and our successes. On the occasion of Friendship Day, which falls every year on the first Sunday of August, let’s remind ourselves to cultivate genuine friendships. Friendship Day is a timely reminder to celebrate those special bonds that enrich our lives. Yet, amidst the flurry of well wishes and social media posts, a quiet question often lingers: Are we becoming too busy for our friends? In our relentlessly fast-paced world, where schedules are packed and digital notifications constantly strive for our attention, genuine, unhurried connection can feel like a luxury we can barely afford.
The signs are everywhere. We lament cancelled plans, fleeting virtual interactions replacing heartfelt conversations, and the constant feeling that there just aren’t enough hours in the day. Our careers demand more, family commitments are paramount, and personal pursuits fill any remaining gaps. While these are all vital aspects of life, friendships-the very relationships that offer solace, laughter, and a sense of belonging-often end up lower on the priority list, almost an afterthought.
This isn’t to say we don’t value our friends. On the contrary, most of us cherish the thought of them. But the gap between intention and action widens as our lives become increasingly complex. The ease of a quick text or a ‘like’ on a post can create a false sense of connection, masking the deeper need for shared experiences, active listening, and the simple comfort of presence. True friendship thrives on reciprocity and dedicated time, something that feels increasingly scarce.
So, how do we reclaim this vital space for connection? It starts with a conscious shift in mindset. We need to acknowledge that nurturing friendships isn’t a frivolous pastime but a fundamental aspect of our well-being. Studies consistently show that strong social connections lead to greater happiness, better physical health, and even increased longevity. Friendships are our anchors in life’s storms and our cheerleaders in its triumphs.
Reclaiming time for friends requires intentionality, not just good intentions. Here are a few ways we can start:
Prioritize proactively: Instead of waiting for an open slot, actively schedule time with friends. Treat these appointments with the same respect you would a work meeting or a family obligation.
Be present, not just physically there: When you are with a friend, put away your phone. Engage fully in the conversation. Active listening is a powerful gift.
Embrace quality over quantity: You don’t need dozens of friends, nor do you need to see everyone all the time. Focus on deepening the bonds with a few trusted individuals.
Be flexible and creative: Not every catch-up needs to be a grand outing. A quick coffee, a walk in the park, or even a dedicated video call can bridge the gap.
Communicate openly: If you’re struggling to find time, be honest with your friends. They likely understand and appreciate your genuineness.
This Friendship Day, let’s look beyond the fleeting wishes and consider what it truly means to be a friend in today’s world.
Let’s make a conscious effort to carve out that precious time, to reconnect authentically, and to nourish the relationships that make our lives richer and more resilient. Because in a world that never stops, the unwavering support and shared joy of true friendship are more invaluable than ever. After all, in the words Robert Southey, “No distance of place or lapse of time can lessen the friendship of those who are thoroughly persuaded of each other’s worth.” So, this Friendship Day, Let’s make time to reconnect with those who matter, both physically and emotionally. It’s time to redefine the true meaning of friendship, moving beyond fleeting reels and into the richness of the real world. Happy Friendship Day!
(The author is a Faculty, at Udhampur Campus, University of Jammu)
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