Parents
need counselling
Sir,
In her
article 'Parenting the teenaged'
published in Daily Excelsior of
June 22, Ms. Rajni Dhingra has given
worthful and practical suggestions to the
parents for dealing with the problems
faced by their children when they are in
an adolescence age group. The writer has
focussed attention of parents on the
changes noticed in the teenaged group
giving pin point solutions to each such
problem, which parents usually neglect
being insensitive towards them. In
majority of cases parents have a feeling
that their children will grow steadily
and shall become good as long as children
are given adequate education and later
allowed to choose a profession of their
own liking. This is not a constructive
approach. Parents should work on the
suggestions listed in this article for
better parent children relationship.
An
important issue raised in the write up is
sharing of interest between parents and
children. Here the parents are at an
advantage as they can come down to the
level of their children mind set to share
children interest which is not possible
for the children to do so. A child must
always feel that her or his parents are
not only looking after his or her
interest but they can also be part of
their way of life in a matured manner and
care has to be taken by the parents that
they do not overdo things to please their
children. The friendship between parents
and children, as suggested in the article
has to be based on mutual love and
respects for each other without
interfering with the open communication
between the two. This friendship has to
be a sacred affair. It is very natural
for the children in the adolescence age
group to mix up with the opposite sex
since most of them read in co-educational
Institutions. A watchful eye by the
parents is neceesary and where needed
children are firmly told not to cross the
line as very closely brought out in the
article.
Ms. Rajni
Dhingra has given a beautiful suggestion
regarding development the children
spiritually. Here parents have to be
fully conversant with the spiritual
aspect before they enlighten their
children. Morality which forms the
fundation of spirituality has to be
practised by parents first before taking
about it to their children. Parents
should not teach virtues in theory to
their children but embody it in
themselves first. This point is also well
brough out in the article.
It has
become a fashion these days for the
parents to keep telling children not to
do such things which are immoral while
the parents do it themselves. The
children of today are well aware of
environmental influences and no such
sermons by the parents are going to be
effective.
Ms. Rajni
Dhingra deserves full credit for
directing the parents, instead of
children on a rightful approach in
dealing with their children. I would
suggest that there would be no harm if
some sort of counselling is arranged for
the parents to understand points of
parent-children relationship in the light
of what is presented comprehensively in
the article.
Yours
etc...
Lt. Col R K Langar
Shastri Nagar, Jammu.
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