Marriage time
Sir,
This has reference
to the letter 'Marriage time' that appeared in
the Daily Excelsior.
There has been a
Dharmik Pratha from ages now that as soon as a
son or a daughter in a Hindu family attains
puberty, their parents remain on look out for a
match for them. They float Teknis (Janam Kundlis)
which are matched by Brahmins, Jotshis and
Acharyas in consideration of placement of stars
in their kundlis, conditioned by Bal and Nekhetar
of the boy and the girl. Where the stars of a boy
match with that of a girl, the marriage is
settled, other considerations notwithstanding.
Date of matrimonial is decided upon the basis of
Rashis and auspiciousness of the time which is
commonly known as 'Lagan Mahoorat'. It is as per
this 'Mahoorat' that Lagan is necessarily to be
performed. This is with a view that wedlock of
the boy and the girl should remain successful
blissful, uncontroversial, smooth going, long
living and happy for both the bride and the groom
as also for their families. After the date and
time is decided upon the girls' parents send a
'Lagan Cheer' (a written intimation of the day,
date and time of performance of Lagan) to the
boy's parents which they are legitimately
supposed to stick to, without any let or
hindrance. This pratha is in vogue from centuries
now, especially in respect of Kashmir pandits who
are the staunch followers of Sanatan Dharma.
What a fate! Of
late, especially from 1990, when the Pandits were
destined to bid good bye to their homeland in
Kashmir, there has been an irrational change in
the mode, method and style of our marriages.
Where the auspicious Lagan time is from 9 AM to
11 AM, the barat, along with the groom, turn up
hours late at bride's place, according to their
convenience. They report there around a time when
the auspicious and blissful grehs are in transit
of movement to another house where its effects
are malefic in relation to other 'Antars' in
their respective Kundlis, which are totally
inauspicious for both the boy and the girl.
Marriages made
on/day, date and time invariably remain
successful. Instances are not wanting where
marriages made in violation of this pratha have
resulted in disastrous, distress, disappointment,
despairment, dejection, repentance, unhappiness
or even death of either of the bride or the
groom, creating heaps of sorrows for the two
families, tied up in such an alliance. The reason
is only that such marriages are not performed
properly as per Dharmik rituals especially on
Lagan time 'Kanya Dhan' has tits own
philosophical background. It should be performed
on time, auspicious for it. While it is most
important and necessary to stick to the time of
Lagna, it unfortunately seems to have remained a
ritual in name only, with everybody's
responsibility having become no body's
responsibility now.
Marriages are
dramatized today. Video cameras steal the time.
There is exhibition and demonstration of society
superiority.
I have been
participating in many of the marriages. Parents
do not take any notice of what they have to do as
per 'Lagan Cheer' Avoiding their responsibility,
they act somewhat carelessly, not paying any heed
to the sanctity of this Sanskar. While they are
keen to celebrate the event with great pomp and
show, they do not take cognizance of the time
factor, which is most important. How painful and
irksome it is ? I am feeling immensely sorry for
it. In the heart of my hearts I seek pardon from
Almighty. My Ashram is frequented by many a
people. Few people have complained to of the
indifference between their sons and
daughters-in-laws. They had horrifying tales to
tell. There lives are miserable, I could feel....
However, this is increasing day in and day out.
There is agony in most of the families. The
position in respect of some couples is all the
more alarming. In some cases divorce has taken
place, in another cases there have been a long
separation between the husband and the wife and
in yet another cases it has resulted in the death
of either of the two in harness.
In,
self-realization, I observed that I have been
rebuked by Mata for the sins that are committed
in performance of marriages. I was made to
understand that where such marriages are
unsuccessful it is because they have not been
performed on auspicious time of Lagna. They were
performed when the time was 'Ghatak'. Transition
of auspicious stars to inauspicious houses result
in malific effect. ETH Shetaks are common with
all couples now. I was even forbidden not to
blame the Almighty but put the onus of it on the
two families only who did not bother about the
performance of Lagna or Kanya Dhan at the fixed
auspicious time. I have been advised to bring
this home to the Hindu Janta to take due
cognizance of it, obviating all snags that stand
in the way of Kanya Dhan or Lagan on appropriate
time. I therefore, appeal to people, to kindly
perform Yagnopavits, Kanya Dhans and Lagans on
fixed time and as per religious ethics. I am sure
everythings will be alright and God bless all of
us.
Yours etc...
Pushkar Nath Koul
Posh BAB
(Shri Pushkar Swami Seva Ashram)
Chinore, Bantalab, Jammu.
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